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@ -38,24 +38,24 @@ Guess what: When a human with little life experience and a newly-discovered pers
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We *all* learn via experience during puberty, and your parents are no exception.
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=== 2. On Labels and Questioning ===
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### 2. On Labels and Questioning
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-A label is not a template for behavior. It's a tool used to communicate you particular brand of awesome to others.* You are you, pick a label that fits. (or don't, whatever)
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*A label is not a template for behavior. It's a tool used to communicate your particular brand of awesome to others.* You are you, pick a label that fits. (or don't, whatever)
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This isn't to say that labels are unimportant, though. At the very least labels provide a useful shorthand for things that are complicated or abstract (see: bisexuality vs pansexuality), so there's definitely an argument for their practicality. The point is that *your you-ness* should inform your label choice, and not the other way around.
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This is why I think identifying as questioning is so cool. You can't get any more honest than openly admitting that you don't know shit and are still figuring it out :D
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Alright, out of my soliloquy, and back to your thing :P
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### Communicating Your Truth
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Is it a possibility to come out although I am not sure of my labels yet?
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As each person on earth is wholely unique, I would argue that there's currently around 7 billion different possible sexualities out there. Who you are, who you like, and the reasoning/motivation for any of these things are fully unique to you alone, which means that you happen to be *literally the only human on the face of the planet* with enough information to determine what label fits you best.
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This goes both ways, too. You are the only one who can determine which labels *do* fit, but the same goes for labels that *don't* fit. If heterosexuality no longer fits you, that conclusion is equally entirely valid.
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On that same coin, choosing to use no labels is just as valid, and so is picking a label but choosing to keep it private.
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should I wait until I stopped questioning?
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